The inevitability of loving is that, at some time, we will have to let go of our kindred creatures who have brightened our lives with such blessings. sunshine and sorrow.

Whether the loss arises from the decision to euthanise out of kindness, sudden loss, illness or old age, their departure can leave us heartbroken. If we are deeply bonded to our animals and love them as a cherished family member, the inevitable loss is often devastating and traumatic.

It can be a solitary experience to lose an animal friend. The loss of our beloved animal evokes the same grieving process as losing a person. A dear friend's son died. She had her dog as her loving, sweet and consoling companion during this devastating time. When her pet died a year later, my friend said, 'It is the same grief I feel." It was a deep admission, demonstrating that grief is grief, no matter what the loss.

Grief can be an especially lonely journey if our loss is not validated and understood by those closest to us. The death of a loved one is often publicly grieved with friends and family. Losing a pet in our society can be difficult as society gives little recognition and allowance for the loss of a cherished animal. Giving voice to your grief helps with the intensity of your loss. Grieving is a natural process; however, it can become complicated if you have neither the support nor the space to mourn. Complicated grief can be intense with grief lasting for more than six months. There are many factors contributing to grief such as feelings of guilt and responsibility for the death, unexplained disappearance, lack of support or kindness from family and friends, the witnessing and trauma of a painful death, and the sad reminder of the anniversary of your loss. If your loss has been traumatic and you find yourself with ongoing and painful memories and in a heightened state of emotion lingering for many months, you could be suffering from post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

The impending loss or death of our special kindred animal friends and companions can feel so unbearable and intense at times. Every loss is unique and individual. For healthy grieving, it is important to voice and give expression to your loss. If you are not comforted in your loss, nor receiving the empathy and comfort needed during your bereavement, counselling can assist you through your journey of grief.